Thank you…
I just want to say thank you to all those who have left comments and sent messages this week. The hardest part of this journey is the mental aspect of the process. I am still battling the notion of whether I am worth the end result. My family has made sacrifices so I can go to a gym and have a trainer. The cycle I experience is one of guilt, then shame, then I give up. I have been in this circular pattern for most of my life. I realize that I still have a lot to do in my mind before I can make big gains physically.
I made my big losses before, because I experienced a feeling of not wanting to go on in life. I had to make a choice of actually being there for my family or truly giving up. I chose life, and now I am 80 pounds down and more active, I feel like I accomplished my main goal. I can walk with my family and run with Lucas and now I need to find strong motivation again. I keep thinking about the birth of my daughter and I thought that would be enough, but for some reason it just isn’t enough.
This week has been a great experience in trying to find myself and my motivation again. I know now that I did so well before, because it was life or death. Now I need to have smaller and more frequent goals to keep me on track. I am still not going to let the scale dominate me, but I need to be aware of it. I need to keep pushing with running and doing more 5K’s. I really should do a C25K program. The last time I ran a 5K, I did no training. I didn’t do poorly, but my body was definitely not ready. Now that I have some awesome shoes, I am ready to start pursuing that more.
I wish I could explain how much it means to me that you are along here with me. Even when I am away, you still look on and leave me comments. To know there are people out there that care enough to hold me up when I want to run away is very humbling. In many ways I don’t feel like I deserve it, even though you have told me many times I do.
I know I let myself become inundated with other’s opinions of myself. I need to think more of myself than I do and I hope one day to achieve that goal. No matter what, I know that there are many out there that do care about me… and I will never forget you. And just when I think that no one cares about what I say, you slap me around and make me admit I know it is a lie. Also, I was shocked to find myself on this list. Now I don’t know how much of an expert the radiologyschools.com site is, but to be included with the level of people on that list is truly amazing. And I don’t know if they rank them numerically, but I ended up number 27. So even though it may be some arbitrary list of people, just to find my name along others who have inspired me and continue to inspire others is truly an amazing experience.
Well that started out to be a short update, but it turned out longer than I expected. Bottom line is that I am awestruck by your support. I only hope that one day if you end up in a funk or low place that I can create some small glimmer of light in your life. You all mean the world to me and I love you all!

    
    
    

May 7th, 2010 at 1:00 pm
Hang in there Sam!!!
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May 7th, 2010 at 1:25 pm
I heart you Sam. Still trying to get things back together and get caught up on my friends, and had to stop by and say hello.
May 7th, 2010 at 2:41 pm
Hi I republished that post for them, glad it made you happy.
May 7th, 2010 at 2:41 pm
Words are cheap, but really do know that you are worth it. Once you get there, it’ll be easier. Not easy, but easier.
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May 7th, 2010 at 7:21 pm
Sam the part that you said “even the birth of my daughter is not enough” If you think about it as overweight people we spend our lives losing weight for this or that. An event usually but the one thing I am learning (working on big time) is that we have to do it for ourselves.
Love yourself enough to do it for YOU and in return your daughter will have a healthy father for a long, long time. That is the best gift you can give her.
Many times I have heard to give the best of ourselves to others we have to put ourselves first. True words!
I know I do not comment as often, been busy but I am keeping an eye on you my friend!
Be the best YOU that you can be! YOU deserve it!!!!
May 7th, 2010 at 9:49 pm
You are going to be OK..I know it!! You are strong and powerful and amazing!!
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May 8th, 2010 at 9:02 am
Hi Sam, I stumbled upon you on Twitter yesterday and had to come see your blog. Glad I did! I think we can help each other, I am a Maintainer of my weight loss for 16 months now and still shocked about it.
I have a website I created to help people like yourself to motivate in continuing. Don’t give up!
You were stating that you were trying to find motivation, your problem is you were trying to find it in others and not yourself.
It has to come from you, if you aren’t willing to make the change in your lifestyle and choices, it isn’t going to last. Trust me I know and am still working it.
If I can help you in anyway, you can find me on Twitter “TMGirl60″ or just go to http://TheMotivationalGirl.com.
L8r!
May 9th, 2010 at 10:01 am
SAM, YOU ARE SO WORTH IT!!!
Guilt is a four letter word. I have learned to avoid things that cause me guilt, and I’ve also learned how to deal with the things that I can’t avoid. There is such a peace to being pretty much guilt free.
On thing that’s help me is: EVERY DAY IS A DO-OVER!!!!!! Not every week, every month, every six months, every year, etc.!!!!! When you do bad one day, bounce back the next day!!!!
Go get ‘em Superman!!!!
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May 10th, 2010 at 2:02 pm
I wrote much about the same thing today. I have a plan to work on my mindset and then my food second…SparkPeople was doing a series on Mind over Body and I’m going to go through the steps… Your card at Jacks’ touched me. It led me here. You can do this. Believe it because you can.